Sometime ago, i wrote an article on people who are so full of their own relationships that they can't be bothered to listen to a friend that needed someone to talk to. It was something i saw on the skytrain, i believe i wrote it two weeks ago? anyways. I found myself on the receiving end of that earlier today, i was talking to a friend (yeah i dont hold grudges) about what's new in my life since we haven't spoken in forever. She was also telling me her story, somehow it ended up on the subject of relationships, so ok i told her that i was still single and that i was just waiting for the right one. Sounds casual enough right?
Well, it was until she started to suddenly give me advice telling me that it's perfectly okay to be single and that there was nothing wrong with it etc. So i told her i didn't have a problem with it, all of a sudden i sensed she wanted to tell me about her relationship. So, fine we talked about it after she threw more statements about how i should be happy to be single and how it's not the end of the world etc, i stopped her right there and told her that either she get on with her story or it's the end of this chat. I am normally a patient guy, everyone has something to say and i can appreciate it. But, there comes a time when i simply lose that patience. I mean seriously, don't assume that just because you are in a relationship and happy that somehow that gives you the right to pity someone who doesn't and rub it in their faces, she has no idea what i feel or what i am thinking every time i see people show each other affection. Neither does she know how i feel about being where i am now, anyways. I ended the conversation not long after, it's amazing how full of themselves people can be isn't it?
Ha! I find that we all have our roles when it comes to friendships...Some of us are talkers and some are listeners. Obviously she is a "talker" and a loquacious one at that. But I dig what you're saying because I have very little patience. SO people who take forever to tell stories are not people I speak to often LOL
ReplyDeleteOh she was a talker alright, she was trying to elevate herself by annoying the living heck out of me. People like that just drive me crazy you know? :) thank you so much for your comment by the way :)
ReplyDeletepeople are dicks sometimes! that was one of the reasons my ex roommate and i stopped being friends. she kept talking about her bfriend. telling me about her problems, and then whenever i wanted to go to her about my problems, she would shut me down. It was all about her.
ReplyDeleteI am a great listener, but i dont like it when i try to express myself and someone shuts me down.
So all she cared was about her feelings? wow selfish much huh? in my case, i am better too at listening than talking. Yeah, i know i sure write a lot on my blogs but i always found it easier to put my thoughts in writing than speaking it for some reason :)
ReplyDeletethat's just how some people are, it can't be helped. i got a lot of people telling me how to live my life too, but the thing is i'm just thinking and looking at things differently and that i thin is what they don't understand. just be patient because humans will always be humans. thanks for posting!
ReplyDeleteSelfish is an understatement! I love to express myself through writing. Aside from the fact im shy most of the time. :( I think its one of the best ways to convey ones feelings to another. Aside from speaking of course. its also another way to get know another person, through their writing. :)
ReplyDeletemmmm Rebecca, i never thought i'd hear you say the word shy :) i love how straight forward you are with me :)
ReplyDelete^_^ blush blush. Unfortunately, If you looked up socially awkward in the dictionary it would be my picture next to the definiton lol, it takes me awhile to open up around people. Im pretty honest when I write or when I deal with people, i dont like to BS around. I just like to tell it how it is. sometimes i get in trouble that way ;)
ReplyDeleteI can respect that, got to be careful about who you open yourself up to right? feel free to ask me whatever you like no matter what it is and in time maybe you'll trust me too :)
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